Do you ever find yourself in what feels like a constant state of overwhelm? At Mars Venus Coaching we talk a lot about overwhelm and how to manage it. Are you spending enough time on what is important to you, or do your activities take you away from what really matters to you? Do you know if what you do on a day-to-day basis reflects or masks your best self? Mars Venus Coaches find many people in our line of work who are dissatisfied with the way their life is running. Either people do not have enough time to spend with those they love or doing the things that they love. Instead, they are either running from one small fire to the next dousing the fires as they come up, reacting to the way their life is going rather than taking up the reins with intention on the direction they want their life to go. This can cause people quite a bit of stress in their daily lives.
Some of you may be thinking that you are in control of your life and relationships, and while right this second, you don’t have enough time in your day to do what your heart desires—you’ll get to it the next day. But, the question is, will you? Based on your past history and following through on your goals, will you be able to get there by yourself? How do you hold yourself accountable to do the hard work of change?
Let’s do a quick – Mars Venus Coaching – check-in. Before reading the rest of the article, right now tear your paper into four pieces.
- On the first piece of paper write down the top ten things you must complete by the end of today.
- On the next piece of paper write down the top ten things you must complete by the end of this week.
- On the third piece of paper write down the top ten things you must complete by the end of this month.
Are you wondering what this is all about? How often do you write down your tasks? Does your “must complete” list match up with what you think you will accomplish in the specified time frames? Is it more of a wish list or a to-do list that every task will be crossed off by the end of the day, week, or month? Just think about these things, because I’d like you to do something else with the last piece of paper.
- On the last piece of paper write down the top ten things most important for you to be or accomplish in your life.
Oh. Hmm. Well, first how does it feel to think for a few minutes about what inspires, motivates, and excites you. Take the previous three pieces of paper I first asked you to fill out—and looking at the last list you wrote circle the tasks on your previous three pieces of paper that are in alignment with your last priority list.
How many items are circled? Are there 5, 10, 20, or 30 items circled?
What you are doing right now is looking to see whether your daily activities are in alignment with your higher self, or the part of you that desires to accomplish/give back to others. If your daily activities do not reflect your last list you made, then there is inconsistency. This is something a life coach could help you realize as well as help hold you accountable to.
From your first list tear each task off so you have 10 free standing tasks. Now, order these according to how you can get through these needed tasks the quickest so you can get to doing more of what you need to do in order to bring the fourth list to fruition. As you tear up the task list, realize you are in control of both what you choose to do with your time, and what priority you place on making the fourth list a reality on a daily basis.
I had you do task lists for the whole week, and then the whole month. Do the same thing. Tear up each list into ten individual tasks/pieces and re-organize. What you can also do as well—if you find some of the “must complete” tasks are:
- no longer that urgent, or
- you can wrap up, or
- disengage from by the end of the month
—take those tasks away.
Remember I asked at the beginning if you were overwhelmed or if you were stressed out? We have to remember there are only 24 hours in a day. We need 7-8 hours of sleep. We also need time to relax and replenish our stress-reducing hormones. Oxytocin needs to be produced for women to reduce their stress. Testosterone needs to be produced for men to reduce their stress. If you feel overwhelmed or fatigued, you are stressed out. Something must come off your list. Something must change if you’d like to focus more on your fourth list.
Guess what? You can’t add any more tasks. You’re going to have to do both a one-for-one trade and most likely take away tasks so that you are getting the required down time and sleep so your body doesn’t tear itself apart like you tore up your task list. It’s your call. There are people out here who hold people accountable to make these life changes so your quality of life improves, your relationships at work and home get better, and your goals turn from dreams into reality. It’s possible if you value your worth enough. We have several online workshops available that provide more insight such as the above information. Check out our Mars Venus Workshops at www.marsvenusworkshops.com.